I was nominated by a fellow blogger, KingVargr, to answer the following three questions.
- What makes you, you?
I don’t think there’s any one thing that makes me who I am, as that is something I am still discovering and to an extent I think its something we all learn throughout our lives. However there will always be those things that don’t change, and they make us distinctly us.
I am, and always have been, a very passionate person, when I set my heart on something I won’t let it go, I stick with it and see it through to the end. No matter what obstacles get in the way, I will fight for what I believe in and won’t let myself settle. I’m not necessarily an out going person, and people can mistake that for being shy or having no confidence, but I’m simply taking everything in and focusing my energy on what’s important. There is a hidden fire in me that only those closest to me can see, and that fire never goes out.
I’m also someone who will always see the good in people and try to help whenever I can. Sometime’s this causes problems as people try to take advantage but over the years I’ve gained a lot of strength and learnt when to say no. I still look for the good, and try to help others see it in themselves, but I don’t let anyone walk over me, I’m not a doormat. When someone comes to me with a problem, I will listen intently and at the very least offer a shoulder and a hug, even if we’ve never spoken before, or it’s been a while, I won’t turn you away if you’re in need. One thing I don’t do, though, is pity parties, I will listen, I will sympathize but I’m not afraid to give a little tough love when needed.
I would like to think I have gained a quiet strength over the last few years. I’ve had a lot thrown at me and had to make some tough decisions. If you’d told me 10 years ago what was about to happen and how things would snowball I’d have run for the hills, I never would have believed I’d of got through all of that and still be me at the end, but I have, and I will. I have learnt that I’m a very adaptable person who can bend with whatever’s happening at the time. Whenever I get close to breaking, I spring back and fight on. That definitely makes me me.
2. What do you believe in?
I believe in humanity. I think humanity could achieve so much if we worked together and fought for each other instead of everything being built on opposition and blame. People are very quick to fight and stand up when they disagree with something, but they never see the common ground. At the end of the day, we are all human beings. No two people are the same, and we should stop trying to make people into duplicates. We are never going to agree on everything, we are never going to have the same beliefs as every other person on the planet, but we can look for and build on common ground. Look at all the things that come out of war, all the scientific advances that have happened because of battle, and imagine the progress we would make if we put the same time and passion into being good to each other. Think how many people could be saved from starvation or poverty, think how many diseases we could irradiate with proper vaccination programs.I truly believe this could actually happen, but people need to bang their heads together and work as a human race, spurred on by what they can do together instead of by their differences.
3. Is there something you would change about yourself if you could?
There was a long time where the answer to this question would have been a definite yes. There used to be so much I wanted to change, both on the inside and the outside. I think its something we all deal with at some point in our lives. Right in this moment though, the answer is no, I wouldn’t.
Everything I have been through and dealt with has made me who I am today. There have been times I have hated being the person I am, because I was tired and drained and needed a break from the pain. In honesty, I still am. I’m currently in constant pain, with no idea if or when things will get even slightly better, and there are memories that I really wish I could erase sometimes because they almost destroyed me. Right now though, I’m at a point where I understand that those things help to make me who I am. I don’t think I would be as strong and resilient as I am now without encounters with certain people or without those days of feeling like nothing was ever going to get better. Through those times, I have learnt that I can make life changing choices without having to rely on anyone to tell me what to do. I have a 100% success rate at getting through bad days, sometimes alone, sometimes with people around me guiding me through. I have learnt it’s okay to be scared sometimes, and that fear makes me strong not weak as it pushes me on to get out of the situation.
At this exact time I am comfortable in my own skin and confident that I will face and overcome anything that life chooses to throw at me.
Thankyou KingVargr for the nomination. I haven’t chosen my questions yet so when I will make a seperate post and nominate a few people.